Wandering Or is it Searching?

Is it wandering that overtakes Alzheimer's victimsfirst, but by telling someone that something does
or are they simply searching for somethingnot feel quite right, you may save heartache in
impossible to find? Imagine setting out on a strollthe future. Many hospice organizations can also
with a definite purpose in mind such as turning offassist in finding ways for individuals to maintain
the front sprinkler or collecting the newspaper.independence while also providing families with
Each step takes you closer to the goal just as itpeace of mind.
drives the purpose of that goal further awayAnother concern is what to do when you find a
from your understanding. How many times each"searcher" off on a strolling mission but with no
day do you head to the kitchen to get... andobvious destination in mind. Most often there are
suddenly you cannot remember what. You believevisible signs to let you know that the searcher is
that it was important or you would have neverconfused and not just a bit lost. The eyes may
headed that direction to begin with, but it is sobe dull and appear unable to focus on you or your
frustrating to find yourself in mid-step with nowords; the steps may be halting, exhibiting
idea of the destination. What was it that youuncertainty as to what to do next while at the
needed?same time refusing to adjust the course;
Momentary forgetfulness seems to get us all. Inconversation may be pleasant enough but just
days that are jam-packed with responsibilities andnot quite on the topic or may include responses
duties, it is easy to get lost as to purpose or goal.that seem odd. It is difficult and sometimes
With an Alzheimer's victim this forgetfulnessimpossible for a victim to admit that he is lost, but
escalates until nearly every task becomes mufflednon-verbal indicators may be signals that all is not
and shuffled into confusion. "Little" forgetfulnesswell.
can be explained away by both victim and family.Be friendly and face the searcher. Speak clearly
To a question about someone's random pacingand with a reassuring voice using short sentences
the victim might respond, "Oh, I was justand simple questions. Try to let the searcher
checking on the dog" as she heads off yet againrespond, as in, do not fill in the blanks of the
on a bewildering mission. When this confusionconversation with what you think should be said,
begins to shadow almost movement, it isbut rather listen and enable the lost one to
definitely time for concern. Forgetting to turn offexplain, if possible, the course she has set. Offer
that hose may cause a small flood; failing to turnto help but do not make demands. You are
off the bath water for the week-end might resulthelping an adult, and as an adult few of us like to
in a deluge.be bossed around like children, and so it is with
Of primary importance to most families is thatAlzheimer's victims. Do not argue. If the searcher
loved ones, even with forgetfulness, retainhas determined to turn left, suggest that right
independence. Being able to live on one's own,might be quicker, but force and harsh words only
drive a car, shop and cook are part of life andescalate frustration and just turning left may be
positively affect the outlook of most individuals.easiest. Besides, a series of lefts leads to the right
Self-determination is a standard of value. Butin the end.
when that independence becomes dangerous suchIf you have a cell phone and can call for back-up
as turning off the furnace on a freezing nightdo so. If not just work to return the searcher
while leaving on all of the stove burners to warmhome or to another place of safety and let family
the kitchen with the back door ajar for a breeze,or neighbors know of the incident what caused
a brave soul must step in to help.you worry. It is also good advice to let the city
What should you do if you are worried aboutpolice know about this event or to advise the
your neighbor who is beginning to behavefamily to do should this searching recur. A priority
differently than the norm? Expressing yourof officers is to help searchers find a safe route
concern is a favor to both victim and family.home and advanced warning of a potential
Some may not take your "interference" well atproblem may well alleviate it.